Formal:
* Referee: This is the most common term used in sports.
* Umpire: This term is used in some sports, especially baseball and cricket.
* Judge: Used in some competitive activities, like dance or chess.
* Moderator: This term is used in online games or forums to ensure proper conduct.
* Official: This is a general term that encompasses all of the above.
Informal:
* Rule enforcer: This describes someone who strictly ensures the rules are followed.
* Game master: This term is often used in tabletop role-playing games.
* Watcher: This is a simple and neutral term.
The best term to use will depend on the specific game and context.