Games to Help Couples Get to Know One Another

Have You Ever?

• "Have you Ever?" is a game of inquiry that can be played in as little as 10 minutes by just one couple, a group of couples or a mixed group of singles and couples.

  Gamers can chose and ask their own questions or a host can prepare a list of questions that has been tailored to the participants. An example question is, "Have you ever been horseback riding?"

  A variation of the game would require players who answer in the affirmative to move to another part of the room or, playing space while the other players stay in place until the next question is asked.

  The game requires all the questions to be asked aloud by the game leader or other players.

  The game is normally played without an objective and is simply an exercise to help players get to know each other.

Two Truths and a Lie

• This game can be played by one couple or several and is an easy and inexpensive way for a person to get to know a significant other. Players need only paper, writing utensils and a suitable amount of time to write down two facts and one lie about themselves. It is up to that person's mate or fellow participants to determine what item is not true. The game can just be an activity with no winners or a winner can be selected by determining who has the most correct answers.

Fish Bowl

• This game is best played with a group of couples using any container that will hold slips of paper. A fish bowl can be used but isn't necessary. Each player writes her name on a piece of paper and drops it into the container. Players are divided into two teams with one member selecting a name and describing the person written on the slip without using his name. The team has one minute to guess whose name is on the slip. The games continues until all the slips have been correctly answered. Whichever team has the most correct answers at the end of the game wins.

Minefields

• Minefields is a game played by pairs only. One person is blindfolded and receives instructors from her partner on how to navigate a "minefield," which is a field with small obstacles known as landmines for the purpose of the game. Players can select the objects of their choice to serve as obstacles. If a person steps on an obstacle, the game is over. This game requires each person to communicate effectively, hone his listening skills and build trust.